"Almost" relationships are the freeze response trying to have a life without actually risking one. The nervous system knew. It just didn't have enough safety to stop the pattern until it blew up so badly there was no "almost" left to hide in.
Bardo is the body refusing to rebuild on the old foundation. Hard stop is right. Let it be hard. Let it stop.
Thank you for sharing this. The death before the life is the loneliest part. You're not alone in it. 💎
One regulated nervous system gives everyone in the room permission to breathe. You just described the ripple effect nobody teaches in school.
Comments like yours are why I do this. Not the theory. The landing. The laugh of recognition. Knowing it reached someone who gets it. Thank you for telling me. Really. 💎
"Perpetual pending as a lifestyle" is the most accurate description of modern existence I've heard this week. Our ancestors had seasons. We have loading screens. ✨
Very synchronous with what I've been going through lately. Six days of silence from someone I'm close to. I still haven't overcome the anxiety but I'm getting better about not checking my phone all the time. I suppose it's a lesson in trust, self-reliance, self-regulation and detaching from outcomes, though not very enjoyable.
Six days of silence and you're already building your own ground instead of waiting for them to hand it to you. Your nervous system is taking notes. Turns out you can be the house, not just the guest waiting in the hallway. ✨
OMG, I am laughing so hard I'm crying! You are truly gifted at communicating and you've just described the last six months of my life to a T! Thank you for helping me see it all in a different way AND be able to laugh at myself with grace and love.
I have definitely been there and done the usual. But at a certain point I changed it up I said I want this, if this is the best for me if not, send me something better. Sometimes the answers take a long time to see the better option, but if I take a very wide lens I can see that it was preparing me for something better. Usually better than I could even imagine.
"Send me this or something better." Your nervous system stopped micromanaging the Field and started trusting the delivery timeline. The wide lens takes most people decades. Yours is already installed. ✨
Well, I resemble that remark, lol. I honestly find it difficult to live in the US now because it’s gotten too crazy! I live in a conservative town and it can be hard but I also went to other areas and to be honest, I experienced similar things in liberal towns and cities. I’m not scared, just don’t care for the violence and guns. It gets tiresome, people trying to bully people like we’re all in jr high. That’s a problem and lack of privacy. Without privacy one can’t feel safe and comfortable.
Conservative, liberal... the nervous system doesn't care about the label. It cares: am I safe enough to exhale? Sounds like the answer is no. That's data, not drama. 🔥
I know I still have some things to work on but I am an honest, kind person and I love my brother! People can say it’s an attachment that should be stopped but he doesn’t hurt me consciously and he tries to understand and works on it. I am just too intense for most others when I go somewhere I notice the genuine kind people versus the ones trying to use or manipulate me and I just try my best to be a decent person but sometimes I get upset and I am allowed to have a full range of emotions. It seems some people don’t like that, they want the old version, the easy to manipulate people pleaser so it gets tiring sometimes but I am doing great 👍🫶
"Almost" relationships are the freeze response trying to have a life without actually risking one. The nervous system knew. It just didn't have enough safety to stop the pattern until it blew up so badly there was no "almost" left to hide in.
Bardo is the body refusing to rebuild on the old foundation. Hard stop is right. Let it be hard. Let it stop.
Thank you for sharing this. The death before the life is the loneliest part. You're not alone in it. 💎
One regulated nervous system gives everyone in the room permission to breathe. You just described the ripple effect nobody teaches in school.
Comments like yours are why I do this. Not the theory. The landing. The laugh of recognition. Knowing it reached someone who gets it. Thank you for telling me. Really. 💎
"Perpetual pending as a lifestyle" is the most accurate description of modern existence I've heard this week. Our ancestors had seasons. We have loading screens. ✨
Phone in another room. Boundary with architecture. Dopamine is furious. Your nervous system is sending a thank you card. ✨
Very synchronous with what I've been going through lately. Six days of silence from someone I'm close to. I still haven't overcome the anxiety but I'm getting better about not checking my phone all the time. I suppose it's a lesson in trust, self-reliance, self-regulation and detaching from outcomes, though not very enjoyable.
Six days of silence and you're already building your own ground instead of waiting for them to hand it to you. Your nervous system is taking notes. Turns out you can be the house, not just the guest waiting in the hallway. ✨
OMG, I am laughing so hard I'm crying! You are truly gifted at communicating and you've just described the last six months of my life to a T! Thank you for helping me see it all in a different way AND be able to laugh at myself with grace and love.
Six months of limbo and your nervous system still let you laugh? That's beyond surviving. That's art. 💎
I have definitely been there and done the usual. But at a certain point I changed it up I said I want this, if this is the best for me if not, send me something better. Sometimes the answers take a long time to see the better option, but if I take a very wide lens I can see that it was preparing me for something better. Usually better than I could even imagine.
"Send me this or something better." Your nervous system stopped micromanaging the Field and started trusting the delivery timeline. The wide lens takes most people decades. Yours is already installed. ✨
The wide lens did take decades 😅
I love this! The lighthearted humor and dialogue between parts made me smile a lot! Great message, too! Thanks for sharing ♥️
When humor lands in the body, the nervous system files it under "safe to relax." Your smile just did the integration work. 💎
This is great Dea and has described very accurately the last two weeks. Hooray to move on! To remember I know what to do xx
Well, I resemble that remark, lol. I honestly find it difficult to live in the US now because it’s gotten too crazy! I live in a conservative town and it can be hard but I also went to other areas and to be honest, I experienced similar things in liberal towns and cities. I’m not scared, just don’t care for the violence and guns. It gets tiresome, people trying to bully people like we’re all in jr high. That’s a problem and lack of privacy. Without privacy one can’t feel safe and comfortable.
Conservative, liberal... the nervous system doesn't care about the label. It cares: am I safe enough to exhale? Sounds like the answer is no. That's data, not drama. 🔥
I know I still have some things to work on but I am an honest, kind person and I love my brother! People can say it’s an attachment that should be stopped but he doesn’t hurt me consciously and he tries to understand and works on it. I am just too intense for most others when I go somewhere I notice the genuine kind people versus the ones trying to use or manipulate me and I just try my best to be a decent person but sometimes I get upset and I am allowed to have a full range of emotions. It seems some people don’t like that, they want the old version, the easy to manipulate people pleaser so it gets tiring sometimes but I am doing great 👍🫶