As a recovered people-pleaser, I can personally vouch for the incredibly gratifying ability to say 'no'...just because, and without the effusive panicky urge to explain yourself in case someone decides to not like you anymore for your perfectly acceptable & respectable boundary.
Right?! The sheer liberation of a well-placed, unapologetic "no" - pure magic. No justifications, no performative guilt, just the sweet, clean boundary of self-respect. It’s like upgrading from dial-up to fiber-optic energy management. Welcome to the other side, where peace is plentiful and people-pleasing is a relic of the past. Thank you for being here! 🚀🔥
Haha, I love your way of writing! So refreshing. :)
"Bonus points if you actually say "no" to something without offering a 45-minute explanation why." - Touché, this is very accurately described! 🤣
As for your question: Hmmm, probably blamed it on my "duties" (kid´s arrangements, family visits etc.) Anything I assumed others would understand and therefore respect. :) Sorry, no funnier memories to tell, I just suck at lying. 🤷♀️
Authentic, undiluted, boundary-protected presence for Everyone, hurra hurra hurra! 🙌💃❤️
Oh, I’ve definitely played the kid-duty card myself - shamelessly. But hey, we outgrow these little escape routes. You know how I flipped it in my head? If I were my own mother, I’d protect myself just as fiercely. My responsibilities - to myself - would be reason enough. No excuses needed. 🔥🙌
And thank you for the energy, the support, and the light you share: your presence is a whole vibe, and I love it. 💫❤️
So true! Our little inner self is guiding us no matter what, holding her hand and advocating for her makes the perspectives shift and the love and acceptance grow. 🫶
Beautiful reframe - looking at it from our current role makes it so relatable to the now and still, accommodating all parts of ourselves, all the roles we ever embodied makes it possible to discover and love the whole of us. We hold the past, present and future simultaneously in us at all times. 🙏❤️
Hilarious!!! And bang on.
As a recovered people-pleaser, I can personally vouch for the incredibly gratifying ability to say 'no'...just because, and without the effusive panicky urge to explain yourself in case someone decides to not like you anymore for your perfectly acceptable & respectable boundary.
Right?! The sheer liberation of a well-placed, unapologetic "no" - pure magic. No justifications, no performative guilt, just the sweet, clean boundary of self-respect. It’s like upgrading from dial-up to fiber-optic energy management. Welcome to the other side, where peace is plentiful and people-pleasing is a relic of the past. Thank you for being here! 🚀🔥
I am soooo happy to be here! 💃
Feeling that too! 💛😊
Haha, I love your way of writing! So refreshing. :)
"Bonus points if you actually say "no" to something without offering a 45-minute explanation why." - Touché, this is very accurately described! 🤣
As for your question: Hmmm, probably blamed it on my "duties" (kid´s arrangements, family visits etc.) Anything I assumed others would understand and therefore respect. :) Sorry, no funnier memories to tell, I just suck at lying. 🤷♀️
Authentic, undiluted, boundary-protected presence for Everyone, hurra hurra hurra! 🙌💃❤️
Oh, I’ve definitely played the kid-duty card myself - shamelessly. But hey, we outgrow these little escape routes. You know how I flipped it in my head? If I were my own mother, I’d protect myself just as fiercely. My responsibilities - to myself - would be reason enough. No excuses needed. 🔥🙌
And thank you for the energy, the support, and the light you share: your presence is a whole vibe, and I love it. 💫❤️
Thank you, Dea. 🥰✨🤗
So true! Our little inner self is guiding us no matter what, holding her hand and advocating for her makes the perspectives shift and the love and acceptance grow. 🫶
Beautiful reframe - looking at it from our current role makes it so relatable to the now and still, accommodating all parts of ourselves, all the roles we ever embodied makes it possible to discover and love the whole of us. We hold the past, present and future simultaneously in us at all times. 🙏❤️
Thank you, I am so happy to be here. 🤗🙌❤️🔥✨
“An emotional tampon” such a gross descriptor but actually very accurate.
Right? Some truths just refuse to be sugarcoated. 😆 Thank you for getting it - takes a sharp mind to catch the nuance in the mess. 💜