The Wound That Stopped Faking Weakness

What happens when pain loses its parking spot in your personality.

Your wound has been running your entire life from a basement office with no windows, a fax machine that only sends, and an HR policy it wrote while you were in second grade and never updated. It picked your last three partners (all with the same emotional unavailability wearing different cologne). It wrote your salary negotiations (underselling you by 40% and calling it “being realistic”). It designed your communication style (fourteen-paragraph emails before getting to the point, plus two apologies and a “just wanted to follow up!” with an exclamation mark that died inside). It curated your entire aesthetic. Your wound loves beige. Your wound thinks joy is “a bit much.” Your wound has been interior decorating your personality for fifteen years and calling it “clean girl energy” when it’s actually just depression with better lighting.

The wound isn’t your depth. It’s where the nervous system learned to stay small and called it personality.

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