BEAUTY IS A LIE (AND THAT'S THE BEST NEWS YOU'LL HEAR ALL YEAR)
A Guide to Feeling Gorgeous When Your Mirror Is Gaslighting You, Your Cortisol Is Through the Roof, and You're Pretty Sure You Peaked in 2019.
Listen. I need to tell you something before you dive into this, and I need you to really HEAR me: This isn’t what you think it is. You probably clicked on this thinking it’s another book about beauty. Another guide to “loving yourself.” Another manifesto about how you’re “beautiful just the way you are” with maybe some affirmations and a gratitude journal prompt thrown in for good measure. It’s not. Well, it IS. But also... it’s SO much more than that. And also LESS than that. And also completely SIDEWAYS from that. Let me explain. This is a nervous system intervention disguised as a beauty book. This is quantum physics explained through the language of your morning mirror meltdown.
Why? Because I got tired. Tired of watching brilliant, magical, EXTRAORDINARY women stand in front of mirrors every morning and systematically tear themselves apart like they’re conducting an autopsy on their own worth. Tired of hearing “I hate my face” spoken more casually than “I’m hungry” or “I need coffee.” Tired of the beauty industry making BILLIONS by convincing us we have problems we never had until they SOLD us the solution.
So I sat down and asked a simple question: “What if beauty isn’t what we think it is?” And then I asked the question that broke everything open: “What if beauty isn’t something you HAVE or DON’T HAVE, but a FREQUENCY you either tune into or tune OUT of?” And that’s when the Field SPOKE. And this poured out.
PART ONE: THE WAKE-UP SLAP
When Your Brain Becomes Your Biggest Hater (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)
Listen. You’re standing in front of the mirror at 7 AM, and your face is looking back at you like a disappointed parent at a parent-teacher conference where you just flunked BEING A HUMAN. The bags under your eyes have bags. And THOSE bags are considering getting their own ZIP code. Your skin looks like it hasn’t seen sunlight since the Renaissance. Or water. Or hope. And that one wrinkle? Oh, that bitch brought FRIENDS. And they’re having a PARTY. On your face. Without your permission. So you do what any reasonable person does in 2025: you spiral.
“When did I become... this?” “Is this permanent? Is this WHO I AM NOW?” “Should I just buy a cape and some cats and lean into the witch aesthetic?”
And here’s where it gets COSMICALLY FUCKED UP: What you’re seeing isn’t even real. No, seriously. Sit your gorgeous ass down for this one.
YOUR BRAIN IS RUNNING PHOTOSHOP (Except the Filter Is Called “Everything You’ve Ever Hated About Yourself” and It’s Stuck on Auto)
Let me tell you what’s ACTUALLY happening when you look in the mirror and think “hard pass”: Your brain, that beautiful, anxiety-riddled, pattern-recognition MACHINE, isn’t just passively showing you your face like some neutral observer.
Oh no, honey. That would be too SIMPLE. Instead, your brain is basically that friend who takes 67 photos of you at brunch and then shows you the ONE where you’re mid-blink and chewing and says, “This is my favorite! You look so NATURAL!”
Here’s the tea on your beautiful, backstabbing brain: Your visual cortex doesn’t just RECEIVE the image of your face and go, “Cool, there’s a face.” No. It FILLS IN THE BLANKS based on:
Your current emotional state (anxious = you look like shit)
Your memories (that time in 2018. when someone said you looked “tired”)
Your beliefs about yourself (deep down conviction that you’re fundamentally flawed)
What you had for dinner last night (okay, not really, but STRESS definitely counts)
It’s like your brain is running Photoshop, except instead of smoothing things out, it’s adding RED CIRCLES around everything and writing “FIX THIS” in Comic Sans. Your brain is LITERALLY gaslighting you. And you’ve been believing it for HOW LONG?!
THE SCIENCE OF WHY YOU THINK YOU LOOK LIKE MICROWAVED SADNESS (When You Actually Don’t)
Let me break down the neuroscience of self-hatred so you can at least understand WHY your brain is such a dick:
ACT ONE: THE AMYGDALA FREAKOUT
Your amygdala, that almond-shaped DRAMA QUEEN living rent-free in your limbic system, has ONE JOB: keep you alive. It scans for threats. Tigers. Snakes. Expired milk. Your ex’s new girlfriend on Instagram. Your own face when it doesn’t match the mental image you have of yourself. When you look in the mirror in a stressed state, your amygdala goes:
“THREAT DETECTED. This face = unsafe. This face = unloved. This face = you’re going to die alone surrounded by houseplants you forgot to water.”
And suddenly your FACE becomes the ENEMY. Not a tiger. Not a actual danger. YOUR FACE. Your own goddamn face is now registered as a threat to your survival. Do you see how UNHINGED this is?!
ACT TWO: THE CORTISOL CASCADE
So your amygdala freaks out. Cool. What happens next? Your stress hormone (cortisol) says, “Oh, we’re doing this? Okay, let me HELP,” and FLOODS your system. Here’s what cortisol does to your face (and this is REAL science, not woo-woo):
Your pupils constrict (you literally see LESS)
The tiny muscles in your face TIGHTEN like they’re preparing for battle
Blood flow DECREASES to your skin (goodbye glow, hello grey)
Your skin loses its capacity for those micro-movements that create what we call “radiance”
Translation: Your face goes into DEFENSE MODE. It’s not “ugly.” It’s ARMORED. Your face is literally trying to protect you from... yourself. THE IRONY. 💀
ACT THREE: THE MEMORY HIJACK
But WAIT. There’s more! (There’s always more with our beautiful, complicated brain.) Here’s the REAL mindfuck: When you look in the mirror feeling “not enough,” your brain doesn’t just see THIS moment. It cross-references THIS MOMENT with EVERY OTHER TIME YOU’VE FELT THIS WAY.
That time in middle school when Jessica said you had a “weird nose.” That time your ex looked at you in the morning and winced. That time your mom said, “Are you SURE you want to wear that?” That time you saw yourself in a photo and thought, “Who is this POTATO?” ALL OF IT. Every single data point of “you’re not good enough” gets pulled up like files in a cosmic database.
And your brain goes: “Ah yes, the pattern is clear. We are, in fact, NOT ENOUGH. Let me project this conclusion onto your current face. You’re welcome.”
What you’re seeing isn’t YOUR FACE. You’re seeing a holographic montage of every moment you didn’t feel seen, chosen, or loved. You’re seeing your ex’s indifference. Your mother’s criticism. That person in 9th grade who said you had a “five-head.” Every unreturned text. Every time you felt invisible. Every diet that didn’t work. Every time you compared yourself to someone and lost. Your face has become a SCREEN where your nervous system replays old trauma in 4K HDR with Dolby Atmos surround sound. And you’re like, “Why do I look so tired?” BABE.
You don’t look tired. You’re looking at 30 YEARS of unprocessed emotional data that your body has been storing in your FACE because it didn’t know where else to put it.
THE PART WHERE I TELL YOU SOMETHING THAT’LL MAKE YOU WANT TO FLIP A TABLE
You know what “beauty” actually is? It’s not symmetry. It’s not youth. It’s not the absence of wrinkles or the presence of cheekbones that could cut glass or a thigh gap or “glass skin” or whatever the fuck TikTok is selling this week.
Beauty is COHERENCE. ✨
And I don’t mean that in a vague, spiritual, “let’s all hold hands and sing Kumbaya” way. I mean it in a MEASURABLE, SCIENTIFIC, “we can literally put electrodes on you and track this” way. Here’s what happens when you’re in coherence:
Your breath, heartbeat, and thoughts sync up (heart rate variability increases)
Your nervous system goes from “OH GOD WE’RE GONNA DIE” to “Oh, we’re safe. Cool.”
The electromagnetic waves on your skin HARMONIZE
Your body literally reflects MORE PHOTONS
You know what that means? YOU GLOW. Not metaphorically. LITERALLY. Scientists call it biophotonic emission, and it INCREASES when your parasympathetic nervous system (your “chill the fuck out” system) is activated. So when someone says, “You’re GLOWING!” they’re not being nice. They’re not complimenting your new moisturizer. They’re reading your bioenergetic field like a BOOK, and your book is saying: “I am coherent. I am here. I am SAFE.”
And THAT, not your pores, not your proportions, not your goddamn BONE STRUCTURE, THAT is what people experience as beauty. Your PRESENCE.
THE QUANTUM PLOT TWIST (Stay With Me, This Gets WILD)
You know what you are, right now, in this moment? You’re not just a body. You’re a WAVE FUNCTION. In quantum physics, particles exist in superposition: all possible states at once. Schrödinger’s cat? Alive AND dead until you open the box? That’s YOU before you look in the mirror. Before you observe yourself with judgment, you exist as INFINITE POSSIBLE VERSIONS:
The you who’s radiant
The you who’s mysterious
The you who’s tired but soft
The you who’s magnetic as FUCK
The you who’s vulnerable and beautiful because of it
The you who looks like she knows something you don’t
ALL OF THEM. AT ONCE. But the SECOND you look with that anxious, seeking, “am I good enough?” energy… YOU COLLAPSE THE WAVE FUNCTION. You take infinite possibility and SMASH it into ONE narrow interpretation: “I look bad.” And your body BELIEVES YOU. The muscles tighten further. The breath gets shallow. The light literally DIMS in your eyes. This isn’t beauty disappearing. This is YOU choosing one frequency out of infinite options, and choosing the one that matches your FEAR. Do you see? DO YOU SEE?! You’re not ugly. You’re just a really bad DJ right now, playing the worst frequency in your collection on repeat.
THE MIRROR NEGOTIATION (A Dramatic Recreation)
Let me show you what your morning actually looks like:
YOU, 6:47 AM, no coffee, one eye open: “Okay, face. We need to talk.”
YOUR FACE: [exists]
YOU: “I KNOW we’ve had our differences. I know I’ve said some things. Called you ‘tired.’ Maybe ‘puffy.’ Possibly ‘why-do-you-look-like-a-haunted Victorian doll.’”
YOUR FACE: “I’ve been holding your unprocessed trauma since 2011, SUSAN.”
YOU: “It’s 2025. Can we start FRESH?”
YOUR FACE: “Can YOU start fresh? Because I’m just doing my JOB. I’m SHOWING you what you’re carrying. I’m a BILLBOARD for your nervous system. You’re the one making it mean you’re ugly.”
YOU: [long pause] “...Fuck. Okay. FAIR.”
YOUR FACE: “Also you’re dehydrated and you doomscrolled until 2 AM. I can’t work miracles here.”
YOU: “Can I at least get a FILTER?”
YOUR FACE: “Babe. I AM the filter. I’m filtering your ENTIRE LIFE through skin cells. Show me some RESPECT.”
THIS is what’s happening every morning. Your face is literally just trying to COMMUNICATE. And you’re over here like, “Why don’t you look like Hailey Bieber?” And your face is like, “Why don’t you PROCESS YOUR CHILDHOOD?” Stalemate.
OKAY BUT SERIOUSLY: What To Do When You Want to Crawl Out of Your Skin
Next time you look in the mirror and want to File a Complaint with the Universe: THE 90-SECOND PERCEPTION RESET
STEP 1: Stop judging. Just NOTICE.
Look at your face without the words “good” or “bad.” Pretend you’re an alien scientist observing a human for the first time. “Interesting. Two eyes. Asymmetrical. Lines forming around orbital region. Mouth appears to be frowning. Curious.” This shuts down your limbic system (emotional reactor) and brings your prefrontal cortex (rational brain) back online. You’re no longer in THREAT MODE. You’re in OBSERVATION MODE.
STEP 2: Breathe like your LIFE depends on it (because your glow DOES).
Inhale through nose: 1-2-3-4 Exhale through mouth: 1-2-3-4-5-6 This rhythm activates your vagus nerve, the biological “CALM YOUR TITS” signal that runs from your brain to your heart to your gut. It’s like pressing the reset button on your nervous system. Do this 3 times.
STEP 3: Soften your gaze.
Stop STARING at your pores like they’re a crime scene. Let your vision blur SLIGHTLY. Stop looking for DETAILS. Start looking for the movement of LIGHT beneath your skin. Because THAT’S where beauty actually lives. Not in the SHAPE. In the SHIMMER.
STEP 4: Say this (out loud, I’m SERIOUS):
“This face breathes. The light still moves through.”
Not “I’m beautiful.” Not “I love myself” (if that feels like a lie right now).
Just: “This face is ALIVE. Light is still moving.”
Do this for 90 seconds. I PROMISE you: Your face will look DIFFERENT. Not because it CHANGED. But because YOU stopped collapsing the wave function into FEAR. You let yourself exist in superposition again.
All your versions, breathing at once.
THE PLOT TWIST THAT’LL ACTUALLY SET YOU FREE
Here’s what nobody tells you about beauty: The versions of you that you HATE? They’re not FLAWS. They’re BREADCRUMBS back to yourself. Every line on your face is a RECORD of a moment you survived something too big, and stayed ANYWAY. Every dark circle is a TIMESTAMP of a night you chose to FEEL everything instead of numbing out. Every “imperfection” is a DATA POINT of your EXISTENCE.
When you see THAT with tenderness instead of judgment? Something WILD happens: Your body stops DEFENDING. It stops trying to “fix” itself. And it moves from defense mode into REGENERATION mode. Blood flow increases. Muscles soften. Your face literally begins to BREATHE again. And THAT: that softness, that return to FLOW… THAT is what makes you beautiful. Not the absence of exhaustion. The PRESENCE of consciousness while the exhaustion moves through you.
THE UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH BOMB
You know what’s REALLY fucked up? You’ve spent more time hating your face than some people spend on their ENTIRE EDUCATION. You’ve devoted YEARS, LITERAL YEARS, to the study of your perceived flaws. You’re a TENURED PROFESSOR in Self-Hatred 101. You could’ve had a PhD in astrophysics by now. You could’ve learned ITALIAN. You could’ve written a NOVEL. But instead, you’ve memorized every angle that makes you look “bad,” every lighting situation to avoid, every photo where you think you look “weird.”
You’ve become a SCHOLAR of your own inadequacy. And here’s the kicker: Your face was never the problem. It was just the safest place to put all the pain you couldn’t process. When you can’t control your life, your relationships, your job, your FEELINGS… You try to control your FACE. Because at least THAT feels manageable. At least THAT feels like something you can “fix.” Except you can’t.
Because it was never BROKEN. It was just CARRYING EVERYTHING YOU COULDN’T SAY OUT LOUD.
PART TWO: THE LOVE DRUG (OR: WHY YOU DON’T NEED A DEALER)
The Science of Getting High on Your Own Supply (Featuring: Your Heart, Your Nervous System, and Why You Look Like a GODDESS When Someone Wants You)
Let’s talk about THAT THING. You know the thing. That thing where someone looks at you like you personally hung the MOON, handcrafted GRAVITY, and invented the CONCEPT of oxygen… And suddenly:
✨ Your skin looks like Aphrodite personally BLESSED it with her morning skincare routine ✨ Your eyes have DEPTH like you contain GALAXIES (you do, but that’s another chapter) ✨ You walk differently, like the SIDEWALK is a RUNWAY and the song playing is about YOU ✨ Even your HAIR cooperates (FINALLY, after years of betrayal) ✨ You’re wearing the same jeans you wore yesterday when you felt like a POTATO, but today? Today you’re a WHOLE SNACK
And you think: “Oh. So THIS is what I’m SUPPOSED to look like. Got it. Can I... keep this? Is there a subscription service?”
PLOT TWIST: You didn’t become beautiful because they loved you. You became VISIBLE because you let love move through you. Big difference. HUGE difference. Let me explain, and prepare to have your MIND BLOWN and your HEART CRACKED OPEN.
WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS WHEN YOU’RE IN LOVE (The Biochemistry of Looking Like THAT)
When someone sees you with desire, admiration, or genuine affection, your nervous system receives a signal it’s been STARVING for since BIRTH: “You are SAFE. You are CHOSEN. You can stop running the ‘am I about to be abandoned?’ program in the background of your consciousness. You can RELAX now.”
And your body goes: “OH THANK FUCKING GOD” And immediately throws a PARTY:
THE BIOCHEMICAL RAVE YOUR BODY THROWS WHEN SOMEONE LOVES YOU:
1. OXYTOCIN floods your system: This is the bonding hormone. The “I trust you” hormone. The “maybe humans aren’t so bad after all” hormone. It’s basically COCAINE for your HEART. Except legal. And produced by your own body. Which makes you a walking DRUG LAB.
What it does:
Makes you feel SAFE
Opens you to CONNECTION
Literally HEALS wounds (physical AND emotional)
Makes you want to CUDDLE everything (humans, dogs, your own KNEES)
2. DOPAMINE spikes: The motivation molecule! The “I WANT” feeling! Suddenly you have ENERGY. You could run a MARATHON. You could LEARN PORTUGUESE. You could REORGANIZE your entire life. (You won’t. But you COULD.)
3. CORTISOL drops: Your stress hormone finally takes a VACATION. It’s been working OVERTIME for YEARS, and now it’s like: “Oh, we’re safe? Cool. I’m gonna go NAP.”
What happens when cortisol fucks off:
Your muscles RELAX
Your digestion WORKS again
Your skin gets more BLOOD FLOW
You stop clenching your JAW like you’re about to fight God
4. Your PARASYMPATHETIC nervous system takes over: This is your “rest and digest” system. Your “we’re not being chased by tigers” system.
When it activates:
Your breath DEEPENS
Blood rushes to your SKIN (hello, rosy glow, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?!)
Micro-muscles in your face RELAX
Your pupils DILATE (makes your eyes look bigger, more luminous, like a DISNEY PRINCESS but with CREDIT CARD DEBT)
THE RESULT? You’re not “trying” to be beautiful. You’re just not trying NOT to be. And THAT? THAT is the secret sauce. THAT is the CHEAT CODE. You stopped PERFORMING and started BEING.
THE QUANTUM LOVE HACK (Yes, There’s Physics Involved)
On an energetic level, and I’m about to get NERDY so buckle up: When someone loves you, their electromagnetic field (yes, your HEART has one, it extends 3-6 feet around your body, look it up, it’s WILD) SYNCS with yours. It’s called COHERENCE. And it’s MEASURABLE. Scientists at the HeartMath Institute have been studying this for DECADES, and here’s what they found:
When two hearts resonate, they AMPLIFY each other. Like two tuning forks vibrating at the same frequency. Your light gets BRIGHTER. Not because you BORROWED theirs, but because you gave yourself PERMISSION to SHINE in their reflection. You’re not seeing yourself through their eyes. You’re seeing yourself the way you ALWAYS WERE, but you temporarily borrowed their nervous system’s feeling of SAFETY to REMEMBER. Mind. Blown.
THE PART WHERE I RUIN ROMANCE (And Save Your LIFE)
So if love makes you feel beautiful… What happens when they LEAVE? [Dramatic pause]
[Sound of your self-esteem CRASHING through the floor]
[Windows XP shutdown sound]
Exactly. You CRASH. You look in the mirror and think: “Where did I GO? I was just HERE. I was GLOWING. I had SKIN. What the FUCK happened? Did someone turn off a LIGHT SWITCH in my SOUL?”
Here’s what happened: You OUTSOURCED your coherence. You let someone else’s GAZE become the REASON you felt safe in your own skin. And the moment that gaze LEFT? You collapsed back into the old frequency: “I’m not enough unless someone else says I am.” This is why heartbreak doesn’t just hurt EMOTIONALLY: it makes you feel PHYSICALLY UGLY. Because your nervous system goes BACK into threat mode. Cortisol SPIKES. Circulation DROPS. The glow FADES. And you’re back to square one, staring at your face like it’s a CRIME SCENE and you’re the DETECTIVE trying to figure out WHAT WENT WRONG.
Spoiler: Your face didn’t commit the crime. Your nervous system is just in WITNESS PROTECTION. 🕵️♀️
BUT HERE’S THE GOOD NEWS (The Part That Changes EVERYTHING)
That feeling you had when you were loved? You can generate it YOURSELF. Not by pretending. Not by standing in front of the mirror saying affirmations that feel like you’re LYING to your own FACE. But by learning to give your nervous system the SAME SIGNAL that love gave it:
“You are SAFE. You are SEEN. You are allowed to exist without EARNING it.” 🕊️
HOW TO BECOME YOUR OWN LOVE DRUG (The Practice That’ll Change Your Life)
This isn’t woo-woo. This is neuroscience meets energy work meets “holy shit I just hacked my own biochemistry and I feel like I have SUPERPOWERS.”
Ready? PRACTICE: THE SELF-WITNESSED GAZE
1. Sit in front of a mirror. Just you. No makeup. No performance. No “let me find my good angle.” Nope. Raw. Real. The way you look when you’re alone and nobody’s watching.
2. Look into your own EYES. Not AT them: INTO them. Like you’re looking for the LIGHT behind the pupil. Like you’re trying to find the SOUL that’s been hiding behind the “am I good enough?” question.
3. Breathe: 4 counts IN through the nose. 6 counts OUT through the mouth. This is the parasympathetic activation code. This is the CHEAT CODE for “calm the fuck down, nervous system.”
4. While you breathe, imagine: That YOU are the person looking at you with LOVE. Not as a “fake it till you make it” thing. Not as a “pretend you’re someone else” thing. As a REAL SHIFT in perspective. You’re witnessing yourself the way you would witness someone you deeply CHERISH. Not analyzing. Not judging. Not fixing. Just... SEEING.
5. Notice the WARMTH that starts in your chest. That slight PRESSURE. That OPENING. That’s COHERENCE beginning. That’s your heart field ACTIVATING. That’s your body going: “Oh. OH. We’re doing THIS now? Okay. I’M IN.”
6. Place your hands on your COLLARBONES. Keep breathing. Let the warmth SPREAD into your face.
7. Stay for 3-5 minutes. Don’t rush. This isn’t a race. This is a HOMECOMING.
8. After a few minutes, look at your face again.
Notice: It’s DIFFERENT. Your eyes are SOFTER. Your mouth has RELAXED. There’s a GLOW: subtle, but REAL. You didn’t DO anything. You didn’t “fix” anything. You just gave your nervous system permission to feel SAFE. And your body responded by… GLOWING.
WHY THIS WORKS (The Quantum Explanation That’ll Blow Your MIND)
Remember superposition? All your possible versions existing at once? When you look at yourself with LOVE: not forced, not performed, but genuine WITNESS… You’re no longer collapsing into the frequency of “not enough.” You’re choosing a DIFFERENT observation point. And since observation literally CHANGES the state of particles (quantum physics 101, baby)... You’re changing the state of your OWN FIELD. Your electromagnetic signature SHIFTS. Your biophotonic emission INCREASES. The light you reflect becomes more COHERENT.
Translation: You become MAGNETIC not because you’re PERFECT, but because you’re PRESENT. And presence? That’s the frequency that beauty LIVES on.
REAL TALK: Narcissism vs. Self-Love (And Why Staring at Yourself Isn’t Vain, It’s REVOLUTIONARY)
I can HEAR some of you going: “Um, isn’t staring at myself in the mirror for 5 minutes a day kind of... SELF-OBSESSED? Isn’t that what narcissists do? Should I be worried? Is this how it STARTS?”
NO, BABE. Here’s the difference:
NARCISSISM = Seeking your reflection in OTHERS to confirm you EXIST
SELF-LOVE = Witnessing YOURSELF so you STOP needing others to confirm you exist
One is DESPERATE. One is SOVEREIGN. One COLLAPSES you. One EXPANDS you. Narcissism says: “Tell me I’m beautiful or I’ll DIE.” Self-love says: “I am the LIGHT that creates the CONCEPT of beauty.” See the difference? One is BEGGING. One is REMEMBERING. One is looking for VALIDATION. One is RECLAIMING your own GAZE.
This practice isn’t about becoming OBSESSED with yourself. It’s about becoming FRIENDLY with yourself. It’s about looking in the mirror and seeing a COMPANION instead of a CRITIC. It’s about your face becoming a SAFE PLACE instead of a BATTLEGROUND.
THE UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTH ABOUT WHY THIS FEELS SO WEIRD
You know why this practice feels STRANGE at first? Because you’ve been trained your ENTIRE LIFE to seek validation OUTSIDE yourself. Your parents’ approval. Your teachers’ gold stars. Your partner’s desire. Your friends’ compliments. The LIKES. The COMMENTS. The “you look great!”s that you screenshot and save for bad days. You were taught that your worth lives in someone ELSE’S EYES.
So when I tell you to look into your OWN eyes and give YOURSELF that gaze? Your nervous system FREAKS OUT. It goes: “Wait. That’s not how this works. I need EXTERNAL VALIDATION to feel safe. That’s the RULE. That’s the SOCIAL CONTRACT. You can’t just... opt OUT of that!” But guess what? You CAN.
And when you DO, when you reclaim your own gaze as the PRIMARY source of your worth, You become UNFUCKWITHABLE. Because now your beauty, your worth, your GLOW… It doesn’t live in someone else’s approval. It lives in YOUR PRESENCE. And THAT? That’s POWER.
Where We’ve Been, Where We’re Going 🗺️✨
Okay, beautiful. If you made it this far, something has SHIFTED. You’ve learned:
✅ Why your brain gaslights you every morning (it’s not you, it’s your amygdala being dramatic)
✅ Why you glow when you’re loved (biochemistry, baby, oxytocin, dopamine, parasympathetic activation)
✅ How to generate that glow YOURSELF (the self-witnessed gaze practice, did you do it? Your face knows.)
And if you actually DID the practices? If you breathed into what you saw? If you looked into your own eyes and said “thank you for carrying me”? Then your face ALREADY looks different today than it did when you started reading. Not because it CHANGED. But because YOU changed how you SEE it. And that… THAT is the entire point.
But here’s the thing:
Parts 1 & 2 are the AWAKENING. They show you that beauty is a LIE (and that’s GOOD NEWS). They show you that you’ve been WIRED to see yourself as a threat. They show you that you can REWIRE that. But AWAKENING is only the beginning.
The next three parts are the EMBODIMENT:
📖 PART THREE: YOUR FACE IS A SNITCH: What your “flaws” are ACTUALLY holding, and how to release 20 years of stored trauma from your fascia
This is where we go DEEP into the somatic reality of your face. Why you look “tired” (hint: your face is holding EVERYTHING you haven’t processed). The conversation your face has been trying to have with you for YEARS. How to breathe into what you hate and watch it SOFTEN in real time. This part will make you CRY. And that’s the point.
📖 PART FOUR: YOUR HIPS KNOW SOMETHING YOUR FACE IS TRYING TO FAKE: On eros, wild feminine energy, and why beauty lives in your BODY, not your bone structure
This is where we talk about the thing nobody wants to admit: The DIRECT correlation between how much life you’re allowing to move through your pelvis and how “beautiful” people think you are. Your hips. Your POWER. Your wild, unconditioned, EROTIC aliveness. This part is SPICY. And it will change how you MOVE through the world.
📖 PART FIVE: EMBODY THAT SHIT: The 21-day integration protocol, advanced practices, and how to make this SUSTAINABLE
This is where THEORY becomes LIFE. The daily practices (morning, midday, evening). The advanced stuff (superposition activation, eros reclamation, shadow integration). The EXACT roadmap to reprogram your nervous system’s relationship with your face. This part is the MANUAL. The one you’ll come back to for YEARS.
Why These Parts Are For Paid Subscribers 💎
Here’s the truth, and I’m going to say it directly: Parts 1 & 2 are my GIFT to you. They’re enough to change your life if you actually APPLY them. They’re not a “teaser.” They’re not a “bait.” They’re a GENUINE offering. But Parts 3-5? Those are the DEEP WORK. Those are the parts that require HOLDING. That require a CONTAINER. That require COMMITMENT: not just from me in creating them, but from YOU in receiving them.
And in the energetic economy of transformation? Deep work REQUIRES exchange. Not because I need your money to survive (though yes, I’m human and I have bills). But because when you PAY for something, you COMMIT to it. You don’t just scroll past it. You don’t just “save it for later” and never come back. You ENGAGE. You DO the practices. You INTEGRATE. And THAT’S where the real transformation happens.
So here’s what I’m offering: If you want Parts 3-5, if you’re ready to go deeper, if you want the full EMBODIMENT protocol: become a paid subscriber. €9/month gets you:
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And honestly? €9/month is NOTHING for the transformation you’re about to experience. 💎 It’s less than a face serum that doesn’t work. It’s an investment in seeing yourself as LIGHT instead of flaws. And that? That’s priceless.
If you’re genuinely struggling financially right now: 💚
I see you. I honor you. And I don’t want MONEY to be the reason you don’t access this work. Email me. Subject line: “I need this but I’m struggling.” No explanation needed. No justification required. I’ll give you access. Because this work is meant to REACH you, not exclude you.
If you’re not ready yet:
That’s okay too. Parts 1 & 2 are YOURS. They’re not going anywhere. Come back to them. Do the practices. Let them WORK on you. And when you’re READY for the deeper work… We’ll be here.
The Links (For Paid Subscribers):
If you’re already a paid subscriber, click below to continue:
📖 PART THREE: YOUR FACE IS A SNITCH → 👁️✨
📖 PART FOUR: YOUR HIPS KNOW SOMETHING → 🔥💃
📖 PART FIVE: EMBODY THAT SHIT → 🧘♀️✨
One Last Thing:
Thank you for being here. Thank you for READING this far. Thank you for being WILLING to see yourself differently. That willingness? That’s where the magic starts. Now go look in the mirror. Breathe into what you see. And REMEMBER: You are not your face. You are the LIGHT that moves through it. And baby? That light has been here the whole time. You just forgot how to SEE it. Welcome back.
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With all my love, all my light, and zero apologies for asking you to invest in your own transformation, 🔥💎🙏
P.S. Your face just texted me. It said: “PLEASE tell her to read Part 3. I’ve been holding her childhood trauma in my JAWLINE for 30 years and I’m TIRED. Also, Parts 4 & 5 are where she learns I’m not the problem: her HIPS shutting down is. Tell her. PLEASE.” 🪞📱💬
Consider yourself told. 😏💕
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The face! It’s all true! Thank you, dear Dea 🌟✨I’m ready to glow!
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